New Mom Etiquette

This blog was originally posted on my BOBW Mom Blog on April 14, 2014.

I’m so excited because it is baby season! Well… it’s always baby season, but I am very partial to spring babies since PAC Man is one :) In the past few weeks, I have had the pleasure of being told by at least four different moms that they are expecting and I react the same way every time-tears! I am always overjoyed to hear when a woman is expecting a child, whether it is her first or fourth. Babies are my business and I love every aspect of it :) And just a couple of weeks ago, two friends both had baby girls. I’m not going to lie, baby fever has been chasing me. Luckily, my marathon training has me out running it for now :)

I went to visit my girl, Marissa, just a few days after she had "Pinky" and I fell in love instantly! She is just gorgeous! Last week when I went to visit again, I started thinking about the day my husband and I left the hospital and took PAC Man home. We had lots of visitors both in and out of the hospital. For some new moms, that can be very overwhelming. So I wanted to give some tips on how to have a smooth and successful visit with a new mom (and dad/partner) and their precious little one.
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• If visiting the family in the hospital, call ahead and try to make sure mom and baby are both rested and up to having company. Everyone wants to see the new addition on the first day, but it is okay to wait a couple of days or weeks.

• Do not give the new mom any advice whatsoever. She has been hearing unwanted advice since she announced her pregnancy.

• Make sure you ask if you can hold the baby and wash your hands thoroughly before you do. Do not get offended if mom does not want anyone to hold her baby.

• If you are bringing young children with you, explain where you are going and that they need to be careful and quiet around the new baby.

• NEVER visit a new mom and her new baby if you are sick or have been around sick people.

• When visiting the home, schedule a time to drop by and bring something (if food ask what to bring) or plan to help while you are visiting. This is important because the last thing a new mom wants to do or even has time or energy to clean up. Make the visit about mom!

• Bring something just for mom. A small gift or something she hasn’t had in nearly 10 months (wine) will lift her spirits. She will really appreciate it, especially since most gifts are for the baby. Sibling gifts are always a plus too.

• When visiting, try to set a time limit or be aware of cues that the family may need some time alone. 

• Check in on mom periodically during the first few weeks. Ask if she needs prescription refills, help with the other children or just time to take a shower and a nap. Most times, she may just want some company :)

For all the new moms out there, know that I love you. This will be the best time of your life. It may also be the most challenging time of your life. But remember, every day gets a little easier. Ask for help if you need it. And don’t forget to take care of yourself. Please contact me if you have ANY questions!