Nearly twenty-two years ago, I moved to Raleigh for college, not knowing that it would become home. As someone who has spent my entire adult life here, I have met some amazing people and had some life-changing experiences in this beautiful city. One of the main reasons I decided to stay here was the family-friendly amenities, not to mention, the great sense of community. I've seen Raleigh change a lot in the past couple of decades, but I have absolutely no regrets about making such a permanent change.

If you’re thinking about growing your family and want more than just a place to live, Raleigh should definitely be at the top of your list. This vibrant, fast-growing (and I mean fast) city combines quality of life, economic opportunity, family-oriented accommodations and a culture of community in ways few other cities can match. Here’s why people are increasingly choosing Raleigh as the place to put down roots, raise their children and invest in community.

Nationally Recognized Quality of Life
Raleigh was recently ranked the #6 Best Place to Live in the U.S. by U.S. News & World Report for 2025-2026. Not only does Raleigh have safe neighborhoods and lower crime rates than many similarly sized metros, but it also offers job security, shorter commuter times, accessible health care and abundant outdoor recreation, giving families comfort and peace of mind. This kind of environment helps children thrive socially, emotionally and physically.

A Thriving Economy and Strong Job Market
Raleigh’s economy continues to outperform many U.S. cities. It consistently ranks high due to job growth in tech, healthcare, biotech and education. Because of this, families can look forward to stable employment opportunities, stronger household incomes and the ability to balance professional and personal life. For many couples, this stability makes it easier to plan for children and secure family support services like doulas, child care, camps & extracurricular activities, and even higher education.

Unmatched Work–Life Balance
Last year, Raleigh ranked #4 nationally for work-life balance, highlighting its affordable cost of living, flexible work options (including remote and hybrid roles), and abundant green space per resident. For many parents, this balance is critical and means more meaningful family time, less stress during pregnancy and early parenthood and better integration of supportive services (like doulas, nannies and elder care for aging parents).

High-Quality Schools and Education
Families often cite education as a top priority and Raleigh does not disappoint. The Raleigh-Wake County area regularly ranks among the top cities in the nation for public school quality and overall education outcomes. Our strong education ecosystem boosts property values, attracts family-oriented communities and creates opportunities for children to excel from early learning through high school.

Affordable Cost of Living Compared to Major Cities
With an average of 50+ people moving to Raleigh each day, housing is always being developed. And while Raleigh’s housing market has grown, it still offers better affordability than many large U.S. metros like New York, D.C., or San Francisco, especially when you compare total living costs and quality of life. Currently, home prices in the Triangle area remain significantly lower than in larger coastal markets. Many families find that their quality of life improves as housing costs decrease relative to their income, leaving more money left for monthly expenses like childcare, groceries and activities. This affordability can also free up resources for important family-building expenses like savings & emergency funds, family enrichment activities  and travel.

Growing Healthcare Infrastructure
Families with young children often prioritize access to strong pediatric and maternity care. Raleigh is part of the Research Triangle region, which is building North Carolina’s first standalone children’s hospital, a major development that will expand pediatric services and access for families. This kind of long-term health investment complements supportive services like prenatal and pediatric care, ensuring families have more options for comprehensive care.

Family-Focused Neighborhoods for Every Stage of Life
Whether you’re a first-time parent or planning your forever home, Raleigh and its surrounding suburbs offer diverse living options. Each of these areas has unique advantages while staying connected to Raleigh’s economic and cultural core.

• Cary: Top schools, safe communities, over two dozen parks
• Apex: Friendly downtown and excellent youth programs
• North Raleigh: Larger homes, outdoor excitement
• Holly Springs & Wake Forest: Affordable family growth
• Garner: Close to jobs, great for young families starting out

A Community That Values Family Support
Raleigh has developed a community culture centered on families that includes support networks for new parents, group activities, festivals & family events, robust parks, trails, outdoor spaces and countless family & parenting resources. Whether you’re seeking support for your first baby or enrolling children in after-school programs, Raleigh offers the social fabric that nurtures families, not just houses.

Choosing where to raise your family is one of life’s biggest decisions. Raleigh stands out not just for its rankings and statistics, but for the real lived experiences of families like mine who move here seeking support, balance, community and opportunity.

From economic stability and educational strength to outdoor living and family resources, Raleigh provides a foundation where children can flourish and parents can build the life they’ve always dreamed of.

Want to learn more about Raleigh? Here are some interesting facts that just may persuade you to settle here sooner rather than later.
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1. Raleigh has a diverse art scene, from Broadway shows on tour to original plays in the park, the opera to the ballet. The Martin Marietta Center for the Performing Arts has facilities for any size performance, including a state-of-the-art symphonic music hall.
2. Raleigh is home to a variety of museums. Three major state museums call the city home: North Carolina Museum of Natural Sciences (NC’s most visited museum), North Carolina Museum of Art (the first state art museum in the country), and North Carolina Museum of History (currently undergoing a major renovation and adding to its cast collection of artifacts).
3. The Capital Area Greenway System consists of 28 individual trails, offering recreational activities year-round. Its nationally acclaimed greenway system spans more than 180 miles, with trails that connect many of the city’s 200+ parks and the Town of Cary's 30+ parks.
4. Raleigh is most known for traditional southern food, particularly North Carolina State BBQ (Eastern style and Lexington styles are favored). 
5. The city is home to the first historically black university in the South, Shaw University. It is also among the oldest HBCUs in the nation. Shaw’s Estey Hall was the first building constructed for the higher education of Black women; its Leonard Medical Center was the first four-year medical school in the country for African Americans.

​When we think about the moment a baby enters the world, it’s easy to focus on the birth itself. But there’s a critical period immediately afterward that has profound benefits for both the newborn and the birthing parent: The Golden Hour.

​Welcoming a new baby is one of life’s most exciting milestones, but preparing for parental leave from work can be overwhelming without a clear plan. Whether you’re giving birth, adopting, or welcoming a child through surrogacy, it’s essential to take the time to plan your leave thoroughly so you can focus on your growing family without unnecessary stress. Use the following guidelines to help you plan a smooth transition into and out of parental leave:

1. Understand Your Rights and Benefits- Start by learning what parental leave policies apply to you:

• Check your company’s leave policy: Look in your employee handbook or talk to HR. Understand how much time you can take off, whether it’s paid or unpaid, and how benefits like health insurance are handled during leave.
• Research national and/or state laws: In the U.S., for example, the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) allows eligible employees up to 12 weeks of unpaid, job-protected leave. Some states offer paid family leave programs.
• Know your eligibility: Confirm how long you must have worked at your company or how many hours are required to qualify for certain benefits.

2. Plan Your Finances- Parental leave may mean a change in income, so financial planning is key:

• Budget ahead: Calculate your expected expenses during leave, including baby-related costs.
• Start saving early: If part or all of your leave is unpaid, consider setting up a savings goal to help cover the gap.
• Explore additional resources: Look into short-term disability insurance, paid family leave programs, or workplace assistance funds.

3. Talk to Your Employer Early- Give your employer ample notice so they can support your transition:

• Have a conversation with your manager and HR: Ideally, bring this up around the second trimester or as soon as your plans are clear.
• Be transparent but professional: Share your expected due date or adoption timeline, your intended leave dates, and your preferred communication boundaries during leave.
• Put it in writing: Follow up in writing with your proposed leave plan for documentation and clarity.

4. Create a Work Transition Plan- Ensure your role is covered while you're away:

• List key responsibilities and ongoing projects: Document what needs to be done and when.
• Identify a coverage plan: Recommend coworkers or temporary replacements who can take over specific tasks.
• Train your backup: Leave clear instructions, access to resources, and important contacts.
• Set boundaries: Clarify whether you’ll be reachable and under what circumstances during leave.

5. Prepare Emotionally and Mentally- Taking leave from work, especially for the first time, can be emotionally complex:

• Give yourself permission to unplug: Your time with your child is precious. Remind yourself that the team will manage in your absence.
• Stay flexible: Babies can arrive early or late, and plans may need to shift.
• Communicate with your support system: Partner, friends, or other parents can help you feel more confident and less isolated.

6. Plan Your Return- Returning to work is part of the transition:

• Discuss flexible options: Consider requesting a gradual return, part-time schedule, or remote/hybrid work options if needed.
• Secure childcare early: Waiting lists can be long, so start researching options well before your return date.
• Re-onboard yourself: Schedule time with your manager or team to get back up to speed.

Planning for parental leave takes effort, but it pays off by creating a smoother, more confident experience for both you and your workplace. With clear communication, thoughtful preparation, and some flexibility, you can enjoy your leave knowing everything is under control and be better prepared for the transition back to work when the time comes.


Did you know?
Best of Both Worlds Doula Services can help you with the logistics of parental leave. Whether it's telling your employer about your pregnancy, planning your leave from work and preparing for the fourth trimester or even your return to work, BOBWDS will help you through it all. Schedule a consultation to learn more.

​As the final weeks of pregnancy draw near, many expectant parents experience a burst of energy and a powerful urge to organize, clean, and prepare for the baby. This is known as the nesting instinct, a common and natural phenomenon that signals your body and mind are preparing for your new arrival.

While not everyone experiences nesting in the same way, it can be an incredibly useful phase—if approached mindfully. Here’s what you need to know about nesting, and how to use it effectively (and safely) in the final stretch of your pregnancy.

What is Nesting?
Nesting is a biological instinct seen in many mammals, including humans. In pregnancy, it often peaks in the third trimester—especially in the final weeks. It can manifest as an urge to:

• Deep clean your home
• Set up the nursery
• Organize baby clothes and supplies
• Stock the pantry or freezer
• Wash linens and baby gear
• Re-arrange furniture for safety or flow

This behavior may feel intense or even compulsive, but it’s completely normal. It’s your body’s way of preparing a safe, clean, and welcoming space for your baby.

Why Nesting Happens
Scientists believe nesting is rooted in biology and evolution. It’s a way for parents—especially birthing parents—to prepare a secure environment. For some, it may even offer a sense of control and emotional grounding during a time of major change and uncertainty.

What Does Nesting Feel Like?
Nesting may look and feel different for every person. Most parents who experience that nesting instinct will notice the following things: 

• Change in energy level. Most pregnant mothers feel exhausted in the third trimester, so when this sudden burst of energy comes, it may feel like a dramatic change (a positive one!).
• Urge to prepare your home for your baby’s arrival! Many nesting parents are ready to clean, organize, and even purge their home to prepare for their new baby. These tasks may range from simply getting the nursery decorated and organized, to organizing every inch of your home!
• Desire to stay home. A less discussed part of nesting behaviors is social selectivity. What does that mean? Research shows that a nesting mother may be most comfortable staying away from new people or environments to remain healthy and relaxed before their baby arrives. 

Does Nesting Occur for Every Pregnant Woman?
While most expectant mothers report this sudden burst of energy and urge to clean and organize, not all do. Please know that your nesting or lack thereof is not an indication of your love for your baby or your parenting instincts. 

​How to Use Nesting Energy Effectively
The nesting urge can be a great motivator. Here’s how to make the most of it:
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1. Prioritize Essential Tasks- Focus on things that genuinely need to get done before baby arrives:

• Wash baby clothes and bedding
• Sanitize bottles and pump parts
• Pack your hospital bag
• Install the car seat
• Set up your diaper changing station and feeding area

2. Create a “Nesting List”- Turn your nesting urge into a plan. Break down tasks by priority and energy level. This helps you avoid overexertion and gives you a sense of accomplishment as you check items off.

3. Ask for Help- You don’t have to do it all yourself! Delegate heavy lifting or repetitive tasks to your partner, family, or friends. Consider hosting a Nesting Party (separate from a baby shower) where close friends and family gather to help the parents-to-be prepare for the arrival of their baby by tackling practical tasks like setting up the nursery, assembling furniture, and preparing freezer meals. It's a way to shift focus from gifts and games to hands-on support and practical preparation. Interested in a nesting party? Ask Me!

4. Stock Up Wisely- Instead of panic-buying, think practically:

• Frozen meals and snacks
• Toiletries and household supplies
• Nursing pads, diapers, and wipes
• Pet food or essentials you don’t want to run out of

Nesting Dos and Don’ts
✅ DO:

• Listen to your body—take breaks and stay hydrated
• Focus on tasks that bring peace of mind
• Involve your support system
• Nest in short bursts if you're low on energy

❌ DON’T:

• Use harsh chemicals or climb ladders
• Overdo it—fatigue can increase the risk of injury
• Stress over perfection—your baby just needs love and care, not a spotless home

What If You Don’t Feel Like Nesting?
That’s totally okay too! Not everyone experiences the nesting instinct. It doesn’t mean anything about your readiness or your bond with your baby. You’re still doing an amazing job preparing in your own way.

Nesting can be a powerful and productive part of late pregnancy. By channeling that energy thoughtfully, you can create a calm, functional space that sets you up for a smoother postpartum experience. Just remember—your well-being matters most. Take care of yourself while you prepare for one of life’s biggest transitions.

​Welcoming a new baby is an exciting milestone—but for older siblings, it can be a mix of curiosity, excitement, confusion, and even jealousy. While your heart grows to accommodate another child, your firstborn (or older kids) may be trying to understand where they now fit in this changing family dynamic. Preparing siblings for the arrival of a new baby is essential in helping them feel included, secure, and loved.

​Here’s how to help siblings transition smoothly into their new role:

1. Start the Conversation Early- Children thrive on routine and predictability. As soon as you’re comfortable sharing the news, begin age-appropriate conversations about the baby.

• Toddlers (1-3 years): Keep it simple—explain that a baby is growing in your belly and will come home in a few months.
• Preschoolers (3-5 years): Read books about becoming a big brother or sister, and use dolls or stuffed animals to explain how babies are fed, changed, and comforted.
• School-aged kids (6+): Involve them in discussions about what it means to be a sibling and how they can help. Be open to their questions and feelings.

2. Involve Them in the Pregnancy- Giving children a role in the baby’s preparation helps them feel included and valued.

• Let them help choose baby clothes, toys, or nursery decor.
• Show them ultrasound pictures or let them feel the baby kick.
• Take them to a prenatal visit (if your provider allows), so they can hear the baby’s heartbeat.

3. Validate Their Feelings- Not every child will be thrilled right away and that’s okay. They might feel anxious about losing attention or having to share their parents.

• Encourage open conversations: “How do you feel about the baby coming?”
• Avoid dismissing negative emotions. Instead, respond with empathy: “It’s okay to feel upset. Things will be different, and that can be hard.”

4. Read Together- Books can be powerful tools for helping younger kids understand what to expect. A few favorites include:

• I’m a Big Sister/I’m a Big Brother by Joanna Cole
• The New Baby by Mercer Mayer
• Hello in There! by Jo Witek

These stories normalize sibling experiences and create space for questions.

5. Practice Baby Care with Them- Role play can make the abstract idea of a baby more tangible.

• Let them practice diapering a doll.
• Talk about how babies cry, sleep, and feed.
• Remind them that babies can’t play right away and that doesn’t mean they don’t like their siblings.

6. Plan for Their Care During Labor- Talk about what will happen when it’s time for the baby to be born. Let them know:

• Who will be taking care of them (e.g., grandparents or a babysitter)
• When they’ll get to meet the baby
• That you will come back as soon as it’s safe to

This preparation helps reduce uncertainty and fear.

7. Make the First Meeting Special- The first impression matters. Plan the sibling introduction thoughtfully:

• Try to hold the baby in a bassinet or crib when the sibling enters, so your arms are free to hug them.
• Have a “big sibling” gift from the baby ready to present.
• Let them interact at their own pace.

8. Give Them a Job- Assign a special “big sibling” job, like being the diaper fetcher, lullaby singer, or book reader. This gives them purpose and pride in their new role.

9. Schedule One-on-One Time- After the baby arrives, it’s easy for the older child to feel overlooked. Carve out intentional one-on-one time with them, even just 10 minutes a day, to remind them they’re still a priority.

10. Be Patient with Regressions- Your potty-trained preschooler might suddenly have accidents. Your independent child may become clingy. These are normal responses to a big life change. Offer reassurance and patience as they adjust.

11. Other Considerations- Speak with your older children about their birth. Allow them to ask questions and review your birth plan with them. You may also want to schedule maternity or newborn photos and allow them to celebrate their new role as a big sister/brother. When preparing for baby's arrival, you can have some fun in the kitchen. Let your children pick out some recipes for freezer meals and prepare them together. Lastly, plan a trip to take as a family before the new baby is born.

Bringing a new baby into the family is a journey for everyone—not just parents. With preparation, empathy, and love, older siblings can feel secure and excited in their new role. Remember: the bond between siblings is one of the most lasting and meaningful relationships they will have. Your guidance helps lay the foundation for that connection to grow.