 As parents—especially as moms—there's a lot of talk about self-care. But what does it really mean? Self-care is a deliberate and self-initiated practice that helps regulate our physical, emotional, and mental well-being. In today’s fast-paced world, filled with constant demands and endless responsibilities, taking time to care for ourselves isn’t a luxury—it’s essential.
Did you know that self-care aligns with preventive medicine? When you prioritize your own health and wellness, you’re not just improving your mood or energy—you’re actively investing in your long-term health and resilience. It’s like putting on your own oxygen mask first so you can better care for those who depend on you. The Hardest Part? Making Time for It. Let’s be honest: making time for self-care can feel like an impossible task when you're managing a household, working, parenting, and trying to be everything for everyone. But here’s the truth—if you don’t make time, time won’t make itself. I recommend planning ahead and even blocking time off in your calendar—just like you would for a meeting or your child’s soccer game. Consider it an appointment with yourself that you deserve to keep. Tips for Creating a Manageable Self-Care Routine
Mom, it’s okay to put yourself first every once in a while. You give so much of yourself to your family, and in order to continue doing that with love and energy, you must refill your own cup. Self-care isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. Be in the moment, listen to what your body and mind are telling you, and honor your needs. You are worth it.
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 Have you ever wondered about the meaning behind the name of my doula business? It has taken me a long time to verbalize and express the full meaning and I thought I would share it with you today.
In early 2015, I attended my very first doula training after two years of researching and planning my transition into entrepreneurship. Working as a professional nanny for 10 years had been an amazing experience, but I wanted more. I wanted to offer more to the families I was working with. And I also wanted more for my own family. I wanted to build a long lasting legacy rooted in community and support. Over the last 5 ½ years, Best of Both Worlds Doula Services has become so much more than I ever dreamed. My early years of both motherhood and business proved to be more than a challenge, but as I navigated my way through milestones & memories, I grew more confident in my abilities as a natural caregiver. I have seen the good, the bad and everything in between serving various family dynamics. If I haven't experienced it firsthand, I know someone who has and I have assisted them through the learning process. Best of Both Worlds Doula Services is where Passion meets purpose... Faith meets fulfillment... Knowledge meets experience... Tradition meets modern... Empowerment meets advocacy... Commitment meets community... With 20 years of experience in me, you can guarantee top notch support & care from a family expert. I understand how unique each family dynamic is and I will meet you where you are and provide quality service to ensure that your family will thrive. Contact me today to schedule your complimentary phone consultation.  THE TEA IS BREWING!
Who wants some? BLACK TEA was an idea that came to me a couple of weeks ago. It was a cross between a need for me to connect with my people in the age of COVID-19 & social injustice and also create a space for black folx to share, explore, learn, grow, heal, be inspired and just be. My first three interviews weren't actually from my account because I have been having Instagram tech issues for months. But things are working well now so I'm not wasting any time! Who can be a guest? I'm looking for black and brown:
Generally, the chats have covered the guests' business/expertise, family/life in the age of C-19, mental health and the current social & political climate. It is a very informal and "go with the flow" type of interview. I am looking forward to catching up with old friends, getting to know new ones and sharing our stories of success, struggle, pain, purpose, business, blackness and everything in between! I hope to provide open and honest conversations filled with comfort, hope, knowledge, connection and positive energy exchanges. I can tell from the reactions to the invites I've sent to potential guests that these chats will be very necessary. It is important that we take the time to express our feelings and be able to do so in a safe space. I couldn't be more excited about what's in store and what will transpire. Now more than ever we need more black spaces to share our own stories and connect with one another and I'm happy to be a facilitator. If you are interested in being a Black Tea guest to share your story, experience and/or professional expertise, please email me with subject line Black Tea Guest. BLACK TEA SPONSORS! If you are a tea brand who would like to sponsor gifts for my guests and giveaways for my followers, please reach out to me. I would love to promote your products and accessories. Black owned and BLM supporters preferred. Click here to view Black Tea IG Live Chats!  Part II of Dr. Carter's guest blog post gives you more insight into her background, experience and all that her company, CARAFAP, does daily including her latest venture for entrepreneurs of all ages. Dr. Amanda Carter attended Shaw University located in Raleigh, North Carolina for undergraduate studies and successfully completed the required course work in three years with honors with a major in Psychology. She obtained her Master’s at Howard University in Washington, D.C. Subsequently, she enrolled into a Doctoral program at Argosy University for two semesters and transferred to Nova Southeastern University located in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. In June 2014, she graduated with a Doctoral degree maintaining a GPA of 3.96. Her dissertation was conducted in East Haddam, Connecticut which addressed Parental Perceptions for Adolescents diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome and/or Autism Spectrum Disorder. Dr. Carter’s area of expertise includes Autism Spectrum Disorder and mental health. In November 2014, Dr. Carter founded her own organization, Care and Recreational Activities for Autistic People (CARAFAP, LLC). The mission of CARAFAP, LLC is to provide recreational, respite, special events, behavioral, and consulting services for individuals diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and Down Syndrome. CARAFAP’s goal is to create a supportive environment where individuals with disabilities are free to be themselves without being pigeonholed by societal norms and expectations. Additionally, CARAFAP offers non-traditional therapies which include incorporation of animals, music, and art therapy in an effort to create supportive environments to enhance an individual’s motivational interest. To date, CARAFAP is a for profit entity and CARAFAP Foundation is an active 501c3 organization. CARAFAP, LLC has employed 20 staff members and services clients in DC, MD, VA and abroad. CARAFAP accepts private pay, certain insurances, and clients on the autism waiver in the state of Maryland. CARAFAP has received numerous awards, recognized by the city council and the mayor of Delaware for providing exceptional community based services. Dr. Carter has appeared copious times on local, national, international television and radio to spread autism awareness and advocacy. She has become a well sought out speaker who often presents at large forums. She has coordinated and participated in 5k events for children diagnosed with autism and is a member of Empowerment Temple located in Baltimore, Maryland. Dr. Carter has also contributed to the community by raising a service dog for a child diagnosed autism, and to date she trained her own therapy dog to help bring forth autism awareness. She enjoys riding horses, reading, traveling, and spending time with her family and fiancé. Dr. Carter and her fiancé have started a new financial literacy program which is open to individuals of all ages which addresses government contracts, marketing, entrepreneurship, and financial literacy for business owners and those interested in taking their lives to the next level.  "I built my company from scratch, invested my own money, quit my job at 27 years old, attended conferences, spent copious hours reading, researching and studying successful business owners. My success has motivated me to teach others how to get started and establish a profitable entity. This is one of the many projects that has come to fruition. We're so excited to offer this service through our foundation. If you want to learn about government contracting this class is for you!" -Dr. Amanda Carter, CEO of CARAFAP
CARE AND RECREATIONAL ACTIVITIES FOR AUTISTIC PEOPLE, CARAFAP6710 Oxon Hill Road Suite 210 Oxon Hill, Maryland 20746 301-235-3093 1-888-951-6370 Website: www.carafap.com FaceBook: CARAFAP E-mail: [email protected]  This week, I am so excited to have one of my college friends, Dr. Amanda Carter, guest blog for me! I have been following her career several years and she has built an empire. Not only is she highly educated, but she is doing impressive work with children, families and organizations concerning autism. While autism is still a subject many people still do not know a lot about, I wanted to bring attention to it here on my blog. There was a time when my husband and I heard from professionals and doctors that our son may be on the spectrum. We did lots of research and ultimately found out that he is not. But I have also worked with children with autism and I know how difficult it can be for a family to adjust to the daily changes and challenges that autism entails. I hope that this guest post helps shed light on what a family needs when raising a child with autism and the resources available to them. Note: this blog was originally posted on August 3, 2014.  Did you know that autism now affects 1 in 68 children and 1 in 42 boys?These statistics are astounding, and the figures are growing at an alarming rate. A college friend was interested in my passion with autism, and asked me to write a blog. Please bear with me as I shed light on my specialty, experience and aspiration in regards to autism. Copious research projects and studies are being conducted about this epidemic to further understand the etiology of autism with hopes of eradicating it in the near future. Some even speculate that there is a cure available; however, this post is merely based on my personal encounters and experience.
My first experience working with a child diagnosed with autism was in undergraduate school. At that time, I did not have a true understanding or concept of ways to ameliorate maladaptive behaviors for children on the spectrum. Although, my client’s behaviors were quite alarming it was my responsibility to de-escalate his presenting maladaptive behaviors. I recall asking his caretakers “How do you take care of yourself? What relaxation techniques do you employ”? Now fast forward a bit... During my tenure at Howard University, I worked with a second child diagnosed with autism. I fell in love with this child and his mother, and we became great friends. I learned so much about autism during this experience which allowed me to look at life completely different. I believe every child with autism shares unique skills, talents, and gifts. During my doctoral journey, I was required to complete a dissertation research study. I began studying adjudicated juveniles who were incarcerated in Miami Dade facilities. After going through numerous denials, becoming frustrated and abandoning my research, I reached out to my former client’s mother. I expressed my frustration and adversities with my research. She offered to assist and help me create another topic. That “AHA” moment struck me, and I found that needle in the haystack! We agreed that I would focus on autism henceforth. It made total sense especially since I had experience working with two autistic children. I started researching and writing that night because I wanted to understand what other parents were saying about inadequate transition planning. I was excited, encouraged and ready to proceed with full steam ahead. My research study was conducted in East Haddam, Connecticut, and focused on “Parental Perceptions of Transition Planning for Adolescents with Asperger Syndrome”. The stories that I heard from participants were unbelievable and sad. Some of them said they sued the school district, hired educational attorneys, and others mentioned that they depleted their life savings in order to advocate for their children. All of the participants who participated in my research mentioned that “they had to dig and hunt for resources and information because it was not readily available”. More importantly, the participants expressed their concerns about their children’s transition into college, adjustment to dorm living, coping strategies, their ability to handle emotional dysregulation, the propensity to be subjected to bad influences, and they vocalized their children’s socialization impairments. After conducting this comprehensive research study, I obtained a wealth of information and knowledge. Given the fact that there were many deficiencies and gaps in my research, I would like to share two of my recommendations with you: 1. Comprehensive transition planning should be tailored to the individual student. Topics to address in creating comprehensive transition planning must focus on autonomy, employment, post secondary education, class scheduling, and dorm living. Transition planning should start in middle school, continue throughout high school and into adulthood. (Dr. Amanda Carter, 2014). 2. Professionals and parents should incorporate social media in transition planning. Determining which sites provide positive or negative reinforcement is vital. For example, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter can be seen as an escape route into reality for an adolescent diagnosed with Autism. However, Skype and Face-Time can be identified as a positive motivator that can be used as an effective treatment modality requiring face-to-face contact. (Dr. Amanda Carter, 2014). I am a community ambassador who partners with Autism Speaks in an effort to raise awareness and fund raise to support autism. In November 2014, I founded my organization, “Care and Recreational Activities for Autistic People”; hereinafter, referred to as CARAFAP. CARAFAP provides recreational, respite, special events, behavioral and consulting services for individuals diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and Down Syndrome. The goal is to create a supportive environment where individuals with disabilities are free to be themselves without being pigeonholed by societal norms and expectations. I am truly appreciative and grateful that my colleague valued my insight on this subject and asked me to express my views and interest in advancing this cause. This is only the beginning, and the projects that are forthcoming will have a massive impact on this population. If you are interested in learning more about my research study, blogs, and future publications, please feel free to e-mail me at [email protected] and PLEASE connect with me on social media. Thank you for taking the time to learn more about my journey towards autism. Respectfully, Dr. Amanda Carter, CEO & Founder CARAFAP, LLC CARE AND RECREATIONAL ACTIVITIES FOR AUTISTIC PEOPLE, CARAFAP 6710 Oxon Hill Road Suite 210 Oxon Hill, Maryland 20746 301-235-3093 1-888-951-6370 Website: www.carafap.com FaceBook: CARAFAP E-mail: [email protected] |
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