25 Reminders for Pregnancy & Parenthood

Preparing for parenthood can be daunting for anyone. No amount of research or expert advice can fully equip you for what can & will unfold during birth and afterwards. Today I'm sharing some tips and reminders that can help keep you grounded and focused when making decisions surrounding your pregnancy, birth and parenting journey.

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1. Roll your shoulders. Soften your forehead. Unclench your jaw. Relax & breathe.


2. Pregnancy and postpartum will be an emotional time. Feel all the feels and don't worry about whether people understand.


3. Your baby can feel what you feel so be mindful of your thoughts, triggers and avoid stress.


4. Resting and recharging is necessary. Take all the time you need.


5. Eating for two does not mean what you think it means. Proper nutrition is essential for a healthy pregnancy for both mom and baby.


6. Don't apologize or feel guilty for prioritizing yourself.


7. Sex during pregnancy cannot hurt the baby, but it can look and feel different. Explore new avenues of intimacy and have fun!


8. VBACs are possible with the right provider and birth team.


9. Laboring at home decreases the need for interventions at the hospital.


10. You can eat and drink during labor. Period.


11. You can decline any and all hospital procedures, tests and suggestions. Just ask for the paperwork!


12. You can change your provider at any point to during pregnancy for any reason.


13. You don't have to breastfeed if you don't want to.


14. Your mother doesn't have to be present at your birth if you don't want her to be. And that goes for anyone (even the doctor on call).


15. Protect your peace at all cost! Don't be afraid to ask for help and delegate.


16. Other people's opinions are just that.


17. You can have a positive birth experience even if you have an unsupportive partner.


18. Planning for postpartum is just as important as plannng for pregnancy.


19. Reduce work & obligations in the third trimester to mentally prepare for birth and parenthood. This will also help you adjust to your new lifestyle.


20. Movement is physically and mentally beneficial to the pregnant & postpartum body. Exercise is a great way to release endorphins and boost your mood.


21. Boundaries are necessary. Your body, your baby, your birth, your business. You don't have to share every detail of your pregnancy if you dont want to.


22. Settling and not speaking up does not serve you. Be honest.


23. Listen to your body & stay hydrated!


24. Birth control is not a fix all. Yes, it prevents pregnancy but it can also come with nasty side effects. Birth control is used as a bandaid for reproductive issues that can be healed naturally. Ask me how.


25. Hiring a doula to educate you about all of your options and physically & mentally prepare you for labor can help you to have a better birth experience overall.

“Find your tribe. Build your village. Start with a doula." Kelly Collins, CP-ICD