1. Tell me about yourself.
Hi! I'm Lauren, a mom of three kiddos from Richmond, VA! My background is in anthropology, and since college, I have spent my professional life working at a non-profit and, for the past decade, for a breastfeeding and maternity e-commerce brand. I am also a Certified Lactation Counselor. I'm a homebirther, have been breastfeeding babies for almost 6 years now, and I'm a firm believer in making empowered and informed decisions for themselves and their families, especially when it comes to birthing and breastfeeding. When I'm not fully engrossed in parenting or work, I like to go for a walk in the woods, ride my bike, craft, or watch birds!

2. How/why did you build LactSafe?
LactSafe was built after a series of moments where I could have really used it. Each instance really pushed me to work with my husband to co-create the app.

Instance one: When my firstborn turned one, I had to have two major surgeries, and I remember vividly being concerned about whether certain medications were safe to take while breastfeeding and not really getting a clear answer. Some said pump and dump to be safe, others said it was fine. It was confusing.

Instance two: When I was pregnant with my third baby, I was given inaccurate advice from an EMT about which medications were safe to take while pregnant and breastfeeding for a sinus infection. I knew his advice was incorrect because I had been a CLC for years, and also had been working on LactSafe, so I was pretty familiar with the medications he was talking about. Nonetheless, I remember being so flabbergasted because if I hadn't had that background knowledge, what would I have done?

That experience led me to instance three, which is more of an ongoing pattern. As a CLC, I've heard so many times folks ask whether a certain medication is safe to take. As a CLC, the response is to check LactMed and talk to your provider. But from personal experience, when you're down bad with a sinus infection or recovering post-surgery, the last thing you have the capacity to do is read through a bunch of medical jargon when you really just want a clear answer on whether you can take this medication while breastfeeding. I've been in those situations, so I 100% get it. You're in so much pain, baby has to eat, and you don't want to give up on your breastfeeding goals. With my husband's help (he built the entire app from start to finish, and who I am co-creating with!), this is when we decided it was time to get LactSafe out into the world! 

My goal for this app is to be a tool that makes medication safety easier to understand and gives parents the confidence to start conversations with their providers, because I've also heard horror stories about people ending their breastfeeding journeys over medications that the research actually says are fine.

3. What is LactSafe's mission or main focus?
LactSafe's mission is to make evidence-based medication safety information easy, fast, and friendly for breastfeeding and pregnant families. Our vision is a world where every parent can make confident health decisions.

4. What are the best and most challenging parts of being an entrepreneur?
Time and energy! I hate that this is such a cliche answer, but as a working full-time parent with three very active kiddos, finding the time to really invest the energy I want into LactSafe has become really hard.

That said, remembering being postpartum and struggling to know if I could still breastfeed my baby post-surgery, and thinking about how I know I'm not the only one struggling with this problem, is what encourages me to keep going. I feel very passionate about this project, and I'm excited to dive back into LactSafe's mission now that the kids are back in school and we have a routine down. :)

5. Where do you see yourself and your business in 5 ­years?
Gosh, it would be an ultimate dream to have LactSafe become the resource providers automatically hand new parents, the way I wish someone had handed it to me. In 5 years I'd love for it to be trusted enough that it's just part of the standard of care, built out with tools like patient insights dashboard and custom provider builds, and known widely enough that no parent has to sit in that scary, confusing moment I was in wondering if they can still breastfeed. Ultimately, if this thing dies tomorrow I'd be happy just knowing it helped at least one other person in their lactation journey!

6. Who do you follow or admire in the breastfeeding/lactation community?
My midwife, Nancy. When I think back to my breastfeeding journey, she really encouraged me to keep going. I appreciate her keeping it real with me and telling me to stick it out. Breastfeeding is beautiful, but it can also be a labor of love and hard work. 100% worth it, but any breastfeeding person would be lying if they said it was all rainbows and sprinkles! Having that support system has been huge. 

7. Tell me about your most recent business win.
I recently launched a pilot for LactSafe for Providers and have been having providers sign up. To me, that shows there's a real need in this space and validates the reason LactSafe exists.

8. Please share any upcoming events or programs you will participate in, or any special offerings for new providers.
We are still offering an early sign-up beta program for providers! If you sign up, you'll get a custom URL referral link. We're also working on launching a patient insights dashboard and a custom build of LactSafe with your brand. More details to come on those latter two, but we are still accepting folks into the beta!

As a doula with more than a decade of experience supporting families from all walks of life, I’ve witnessed the transformative power of real, human care in birth and postpartum. And lately, I’ve been reading a lot about the rise of “AI doulas.” If you’re a pregnant woman, a parent, or someone who cares about equitable maternal care, you should think critically too.

Because here’s the truth: AI doulas, no matter how smart or advanced the technology, cannot replace the support, knowledge, compassion and embodied expertise of live doulas and birth workers. And that limitation matters deeply, especially for Black and Brown women and for families in rural and underserved areas who are already struggling to access quality maternal care.

The Evidence Speaks for Real Doula Support
Over years of training, intuitive skill and lived experience, doulas have become an evidence-based part of maternal care. Multiple peer-reviewed studies have linked doula support, particularly continuous, human, non-clinical support, to:

• Improved Birth Outcomes Research shows that doula support is associated with reduced cesarean rates, shorter labor, increased breastfeeding initiation and lower maternal stress. Doula presence during labor is also linked with a 25% reduced risk of cesarean delivery and improved birth satisfaction.
• Better Maternal Experiences Studies show that doulas help birthing people feel more informed, supported and empowered in decision-making around their birth preferences. Even virtual doula support (which is still provided by real humans) has been associated with lower odds of cesarean and better reported birth experiences, particularly among Black mothers.
• Health Equity There’s growing interest in integrating doulas into Medicaid programs precisely because community-based doula care has the potential to address racial inequities in maternal outcomes and disrupt systemic biases in obstetric care. 

​What Real Doulas Bring That AI Simply Can’t
When people talk about AI doulas, they usually mean chatbots or machine learning tools designed to answer questions about pregnancy, contractions, labor stages or baby care. They might offer information. They might offer checklists. They might even simulate empathy through programmed responses.

But here’s what AI cannot and will never do:

• Embodied Presence Doulas are physically present. We hold your hand. We move with your body. We feel the ebb and flow of your labor. We see the tension, the tears, the triumphs, and we respond in real time in ways an algorithm never could.
• Human Connection & Trust Birth is vulnerable. Postpartum is raw. People want someone who truly sees them, respects them and advocates for them in a system that often ignores their voice. AI doesn’t build relationship, trust or safety, but lived human beings do.
• Contextual Understanding No AI can interpret your emotional state, your cultural background, your medical context and your preferences in the nuanced way a trained doula can. We know how to support a pregnant woman and partner, we know how to navigate hospital systems and we help people make decisions that align with their values and bodies.
• Advocacy & Anti-Racist Support This matters more than ever for Black and Brown birthing people. Research shows that doulas can buffer the harmful effects of bias in maternity care and improve birth experiences for Black women, including reducing experiences of perceived racism during birth. In a study of Black mothers during the COVID-19 pandemic, those with doulas reported less perceived racism and better birth experiences when doulas were physically present. 

The truth is that AI can't give the much-needed human response to years of infertility, a third trimester pregnancy loss, a changed birth plan that ends in an emergency csection, birth trauma, the long journey of breastfeeding or pumping, preparing to leave your baby with someone while you return to work and all of the other countless physical, emotional and mental changes that come with parenthood.

Where AI May Help and Where It Falls Short
Listen, I don’t dismiss technology outright. The modern world has come along way with technological advances. AI tools can offer resources, triage information and support access to basic guidance when no human is available. There is emerging research on AI applications in maternal health in low-resource settings that aid triage and decision support for clinical staff. But that’s not the same as replacing a doula. Those applications are clinical adjuncts, not sources of continuous physical, emotional, cultural, and advocacy support.

Bridging the Gap: Companies Who are Making a Difference
At the same time, we are seeing companies like Maven Clinic and Cleo step into this space, offering families access to virtual doulas, care advocates, and wellness support through technology. These platforms are often employer-sponsored benefits designed to increase access to guidance, education, and support across pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting. Through services like video consultations, messaging, and on-demand resources, virtual doulas on platforms like Maven can help with birth planning, answer questions, and provide emotional support from a distance. Cleo similarly connects families with guides and experts who offer personalized support across different stages of caregiving . And to be clear, there is value here. These tools can help bridge gaps, especially for families who might not otherwise have access to any support at all. But even as these companies expand access, what they are offering is still adjacent to, not a replacement for, the deeply relational, hands-on, culturally attuned care that in-person doulas provide. Technology can extend our reach, but it cannot replicate our presence.

AI will continue to evolve. AI doulas may become more sophisticated. But they will always be tools, not replacements, for the human heart, presence, intuition and expertise that real doulas bring to birth and postpartum care. Real doulas don’t just provide information, we bear witness. We advocate. We care. We walk into the unknown with you. And in birth, that human presence matters.

Want to know the real deal about AI? Watch this eye-opening video on the future of AI from a spiritual perspective.

​The holidays are often painted as a season of light, laughter, and togetherness. But for many families, this time of year arrives carrying an ache that’s hard to put into words. An empty chair at the table. A quiet house where a child’s laughter once filled the air. A job lost, a dream deferred, a relationship changed, a body that no longer feels the same after birth or loss.

Grief doesn’t take a holiday break.

Many people often feel pressure (spoken or unspoken) to “be strong,” to show up for others, or to recreate joy for their families even when their own hearts feel heavy. Even I have expereinced a great deal of unexpected loss and grief this year both personally and professinally. If you’re walking through the holidays after loss, I want you to know this first and foremost:

Your grief is valid. Your sadness is not a failure of faith. And joy does not mean pretending everything is okay.

Grief and Joy Can Coexist
One of the greatest misunderstandings about grief, especially within faith spaces, is the idea that joy replaces sorrow. But scripture tells a different story.

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” —Psalm 34:18

Joy, in a biblical sense, is not forced cheerfulness or constant gratitude. It is a quiet, steady hope rooted in God’s presence with us, even in the valley. You can grieve deeply and still experience moments of joy. You can laugh one moment and cry the next. Both can live side by side.

Joy may look different now. Softer. Quieter. More fleeting. And that’s okay.

Naming the Losses We Carry
Loss during the holidays isn’t always tied to death alone. Many families are grieving:

• The loss of a pregnancy or child
• The loss of a parent, sibling, or dear friend
• The loss of a job or financial security
• The loss of health, identity, or expectations after birth
• The loss of traditions that no longer feel the same

Grief after birth, whether after a traumatic delivery, NICU stay, infertility journey, or postpartum struggles, can feel especially isolating during a season that celebrates new life and happiness. If this is you, please know this: God sees every part of your story, including the chapters you never wanted to write.

Gentle Ways to Make Space for Joy (Without Forcing It)
Joy doesn’t need to be manufactured. Often, it’s received quietly when we allow ourselves grace.

1. Lower the bar.
This may not be the year for elaborate traditions or full calendars. Give yourself permission to simplify. A peaceful day is enough.

2. Create new traditions.
It’s okay if old traditions feel painful. Light a candle in remembrance. Write a prayer. Take a quiet walk. Invite God into something new.

3. Let yourself feel it all.
Suppressing grief doesn’t protect joy, it delays healing. Tears are not a setback; they are a form of release.

4. Ask for support.
Just as I remind new parents they weren’t meant to do postpartum alone, grief was never meant to be carried in isolation. Lean on trusted friends, your faith community, or a professional if needed.

5. Look for holy moments, not happy ones.
Joy may show up as a deep breath, a kind word, a warm meal, or a moment of rest. These are sacred, too.

A Faith Reminder for the Weary Heart
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”
—Matthew 5:4

God does not rush your healing. He does not ask you to skip over grief to prove your trust in Him. He meets you in it. The incarnation we celebrate at Christmas is a reminder that God entered a broken world, not a perfect one, and chose to dwell with us in our pain.

If this holiday season feels heavier than joyful, you are not alone. There is no timeline for grief. There is no right way to mourn. And there is no expiration date on love. But know that our God heals and he is waiting to do it for you,

May this season hold space for your sorrow and gently invite moments of peace.

May you feel God’s nearness in the quiet moments and His grace when the days feel overwhelming.

And may joy, however small and however unexpected, find you exactly where you are.

If you are grieving, you are seen. You are held. And you do not walk this season alone.

Returning to work after having a baby is a deeply personal and often emotional experience. It’s a significant milestone that can bring a mix of pride, anxiety, and guilt. For many new parents, this transition means not only adapting to a new daily routine but also coping with the emotional strain of being away from their baby for extended periods. If you're approaching this chapter, know that you're not alone and that preparation, both physically and emotionally, can make a world of difference.

The Emotional Reality of Returning to Work
One of the biggest challenges new moms and dads face when returning to work is the emotional tug-of-war that comes with leaving their baby in someone else’s care. Whether your little one is staying with a family member, a nanny, or going to daycare, it can be heart-wrenching to walk away each morning knowing someone else will witness their smiles, feedings, and firsts during the day.

Common emotional challenges include:

• Guilt about not being there every moment.
• Separation anxiety—not just for the baby, but for you, too.
• Fear of missing out on milestones.
• Overwhelm from juggling work responsibilities and parenting.

These feelings are normal and valid. But with time, structure, and support, it does get easier.

Preparing Physically: Establishing a New Routine
The key to easing back into work is creating a routine that supports both your well-being and your baby's needs.
Here’s how to get started:
1. Practice the Morning Routine Early- A week or two before your official return, do a few trial runs of your morning schedule. Wake up at the time you would for work, get yourself and your baby ready, and leave the house as if you’re heading to work. This helps both of you adjust to the rhythm without the pressure of a real workday.

2. Build a Consistent Sleep and Feeding Schedule- Work with your baby to find a predictable sleep and feeding schedule that aligns with your working hours. This will help the person caring for your baby maintain consistency, which is comforting for babies and reassuring for you. If you are planning to pump while you are working, be sure to make the necessary arrangements to be able to do so (pumping space, scheduled time for pumping sessions and milk storage).

3. Prepare Meals and Outfits Ahead of Time- Evening preparation is a game-changer. Lay out clothes, prep bottles, pack your lunch, and organize your baby’s diaper bag the night before to minimize morning stress.

4. Prioritize Self-Care- Returning to work isn’t just about your baby—it’s also about you. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, staying hydrated, and incorporating some gentle movement (even a walk counts). A healthy mom is a happier, more present mom.

Preparing Emotionally: Coping with Separation and Change
1. Visit and Trust the Caregiver- Spend time getting to know the caregiver or daycare staff. Observe how they interact with your baby and ask plenty of questions. Feeling confident in who’s caring for your baby can ease separation anxiety and help you focus at work.

2. Start with Short Separations- Ease into longer days apart by starting with shorter separations if possible. Begin with a few hours and gradually extend the time. This allows both you and your baby to adjust more gently.

3. Stay Connected During the Day- Ask your caregiver to send updates or photos throughout the day. A quick message can offer enormous comfort and help bridge the distance.

4. Create Special Rituals- Make the most of the time you do have. Create simple morning or bedtime rituals that are just for you and your baby. Whether it's singing a special song, reading a book, or snuggling before bed, these moments will be cherished and help strengthen your bond.

5. Give Yourself Grace- Some days will be harder than others. There may be tears (from both of you), forgotten items, or guilt that creeps in unexpectedly. Allow yourself to feel all of it without judgment. You’re doing your best—and that’s enough.

The Honest Truth: parenting is hard. Not just “I’ve-been-up-all-night” hard, or “my-toddler-just-flushed-my-keys” hard. I'm talking next-level hard. And while sleep deprivation, mystery stains, and the eternal search for matching socks play their part, there's one sneaky culprit that makes this whole parenting thing truly bananas:
​
Everyone suddenly becomes a parenting expert.

Yep. The real reason parenting is so hard? It’s not your baby. It’s your great aunt Carol, your neighbor Sharon, the random barista who just “has to say something,” and don’t forget the infinite scroll of contradictory advice from Instagram moms who look like they haven’t ever had spit-up on their sweaters. The real reason parenting is so hard is because everybody has an opinion on how YOU should parent YOUR child(ren). How Sway?!

You bring your baby to the park and someone tells you they’re underdressed. Another tells you they’re overdressed. One stranger says co-sleeping is the only way, while another gasps in horror that your baby isn’t in their crib at 7:03 p.m. sharp.

If babies came with instruction manuals, every page would be written in a different handwriting—with conflicting advice in the margins.

Welcome to the wild ride of unsolicited parenting wisdom.

But here’s the thing no one tells you enough (unless you’ve got that one cool friend who keeps it real):
You’re allowed to ignore the noise. In fact, you should.

Because the truth is, nobody—not your mom, not your pediatrician (okay, maybe a little bit your pediatrician), and definitely not that Facebook mom’s group—is raising your baby. You are. And you’re going to get a lot of things right. You’re also going to mess some stuff up. That’s called parenting. It’s not a mistake, it’s how it works.

Every cry, every giggle, every midnight panic-Google (please don't Google) builds your parenting muscle. You don’t learn how to parent by reading all the blogs (yes, including this one—ironic, I know). You learn it the old-fashioned way: by doing it. By trial. By error. By rerouting. And by trusting that little voice inside you that says, “Okay, I’ve got this. I think.”

So, the next time someone offers you the tip that “saved their baby’s sleep/feeding/sanity,” smile politely. Say “Thanks, I’ll keep that in mind.” And then do whatever the heck you think is right. Because you're not raising their baby. You’re raising yours. And you're doing great—even if your shirt is inside out and your toddler just ate a crayon.

Hang in there, trust your gut, and remember: no one knows your baby like you do.
Someday you’ll get to give your own unsolicited advice. Just think of it as a rite of passage.