Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum Myths

Pregnancy and childbirth are surrounded by generations of stories, advice, and beliefs—some helpful, some outdated, and others simply untrue. Whether you're expecting, trying to conceive, or just curious, it's important to separate fact from fiction. Here are some of the most common myths surrounding pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period—and the truths behind them.

​Pregnancy Myths

1. You’re eating for two- This myth leads many expectant mothers to overeat. While nutritional needs do increase, it’s not necessary to double your intake. Most women only need about 300–500 extra calories per day in the second and third trimesters.
2. Caffeine and raw meat/seafood are completely unsafe- Moderation is key. Up to 200mg of caffeine per day (about one 12 oz coffee) is considered safe. Raw or undercooked meats and seafood do carry risks like listeria or parasites, but some, like sushi from reputable sources, may be safe. Talk to your provider to make informed choices.
3. Morning sickness only happens in the morning- Nausea and vomiting during pregnancy can happen at any time of day. For some, it lasts all day—and for a few, it continues beyond the first trimester. While most people feel relief by the second trimester, others experience nausea into the third or even the entire pregnancy.
4. Heartburn means your baby will have lots of hair- This one is surprisingly partially true. Some studies suggest a correlation between pregnancy hormones that cause heartburn and fetal hair growth. But this old wives’ tale is far from scientific. The truth is that your heartburn is more closely linked to hormonal changes and your growing uterus putting pressure on the stomach.
5. You can’t exercise during pregnancy- Unless your doctor advises otherwise, exercise is not only safe but recommended during pregnancy. Activities like walking, swimming, and prenatal yoga can ease discomfort and prepare your body for birth.
6.  You can predict baby’s gender by carrying high or low - How you “carry” has more to do with your body type, muscle tone, and baby's position, not their gender. The only reliable methods for determining gender are ultrasounds or genetic testing.
7. Exercise and sex are unsafe during pregnancy- Unless your pregnancy is high-risk or your provider advises against it, both are typically safe and often beneficial. Exercise can boost energy and improve mood, while sex is usually safe right up until your water breaks.
8. You can’t dye your hair- Modern hair dyes are generally considered safe during pregnancy, especially after the first trimester. If you're concerned, opt for highlights or low-chemical options that don’t sit directly on the scalp.
9. Being over 35 means your pregnancy is “high-risk”- Age alone doesn’t define a pregnancy. While people over 35 are statistically more likely to face certain complications, most go on to have healthy pregnancies and births. “Advanced Maternal Age” is a label, not a destiny.
10. You shouldn't get pregnant soon after a miscarriage- Physically, you can become pregnant shortly after a miscarriage. While emotional healing is deeply personal, there’s no universal medical reason to delay unless advised otherwise.

Labor & Birth Myths

1. You will instinctively know when you’re in labor- First-time parents, in particular, may confuse early labor with Braxton Hicks contractions. True labor usually involves regular, intensifying contractions—and it’s okay to call your provider to check.
2. Your water will break just like in the movies- Thanks to movies, many think water breaks in a gush on the kitchen floor. In reality, it may be a trickle, and for many, it doesn’t break on its own at all and is done manually during labor.
3. You must give birth in a hospital/home birth is dangerous- While hospitals are common birth settings, many people choose to give birth at home or in birthing centers with midwives. With proper care and planning, birthing at home or at a birth center can be as safe as hospital births. The key is proper screening and having a plan for transfer if needed. It’s not for everyone, but it’s far from reckless.
4. Pitocin is FDA-Approved- Surprisingly, the synthetic hormone Pitocin, commonly used to induce or speed up labor, is not FDA-approved for labor induction. It’s used off-label, meaning providers administer it based on clinical practice and experience, not formal FDA endorsement.
5. You can’t eat during labor- This rule varies by hospital and is outdated. Eating light snacks during early labor can help sustain energy. Clear fluids are almost always allowed. Ultimately, you have the right to make informed choices about your body.
6. Hospital policy is law and you have no control- Hospital policies are guidelines, not legal mandates. You have the right to informed consent and refusal at all times. That means you can say no to any intervention or procedure, and you can request alternatives.
7. A C-section is the “easy way out”- Cesarean sections are major surgeries with real risks and a longer recovery time. While they can be life-saving, choosing or needing a C-section doesn’t make birth easier or less valid.
8. You have to have a c-section if you are having multiples- Vaginal births with multiples are very possible depending on their positions, your health, and your provider’s experience. You can even have your babies at home with the support of an experienced midwife.
9. You can't have a vaginal birth after a c-section-  VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean) is a safe and viable option for many people. Not every provider supports it, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t possible.

Postpartum​

1. You will bond instantly with your baby- Not everyone feels a deep bond right away. It can take time to adjust emotionally and physically. If you are struggling to connect, you’re not alone and support is available.
2. Breastfeeding comes naturally to everyone- While breastfeeding is natural, it doesn't always come easily. Many people face challenges with latching, supply, or pain. Lactation consultants and a good support system can make a big difference and even extend a new mother's nursing journey significantly.
3. You can’t get pregnant if you’re nursing- Breastfeeding can delay the return of your period, but it’s not reliable birth control unless very specific conditions are met (known as the Lactational Amenorrhea Method). Ovulation can happen before your first postpartum period, making pregnancy possible.
4. Postpartum hair loss is not normal- It is normal, but it can be surprising. Due to hormonal shifts, many people shed a significant amount of hair around 3–4 months postpartum. It usually resolves within a year. Proper nutrition and hair care can help.
5. The 6-week checkup means you’re back to normal- The 6-week postpartum visit is important, but it’s not a one-size-fits-all sign-off. Many are cleared for sex or exercise too soon, before they are physically or emotionally ready. Recovery looks different for everyone. Please advocate for thorough care.
6. You should “bounce back” quickly- There is an abnormal societal pressure to return to pre-pregnancy appearance and routines fast, but healing from birth takes time. Your body just grew and birthed a human-please give yourself grace and "go with the slow'.
7. Postpartum depression only happens right after birth- Postpartum depression can occur any time in the first year (or even beyond). It's not just “baby blues,” and it affects all kinds of parents (both mothers and fathers). If you are struggling, please seek help. It is a medical condition, not a weakness.
8. Asking for help means you’re not a good parent- In reality, recognizing when you need support is a strength. Whether it’s a partner, doula, family member, therapist, or friend, leaning on others is healthy and necessary.

The journey through pregnancy, birth, and postpartum is as unique as each person who experiences it. Misinformation can make that journey harder than it needs to be. By busting these common myths, I hope to make space for truth, compassion, and support—because every parent deserves it.